A few weeks ago I was sitting round a pub table with a bunch of guy friends when the talk turned to tattoos. There were eight of us at the table but there wasn’t a single tattoo between us. Which, considering we were in Hackney, hipster central and the place that – after Portland, Oregon – surely has the most tattoos per capita in the world, seemed highly unusual.
It’s not that I’ve never wanted a tattoo, I have, at various points in my life, but I’ve always worried that I would, over time, come to regret the design or even the positioning of the tattoo, both things that seem to be as subject to the whims of fashion as hemlines and heel heights. I’m easily bored and struggle to come to a decision about, well, anything. As anyone who’s ever been out for dinner with me can testify I’m always switching between at least three possible dishes right up until the last moment. Neither trait bodes well for getting a tattoo and not living to regret it.
Recently though the thought of getting a tattoo has been on my mind. As I’ve mentioned before I’m approaching a significant birthday and it seems as good a time as any to get inked, if I’m ever going to, in order to mark where I am in my life right now.
Then I think about all the decisions I would have to make. First of all, obviously, I would have to decide on a design. I like small black ink tattoos of words or phrases and simple outline designs, like the ones in the images above (all from @justsmalltattoos). But what symbol? I like triangles, arrows, hearts, stars and all manner of yoga-related symbols. If I went with a word or phrase how would I narrow it down? There are just so many. And then, once I’d made my mind up about the design, I would have to decide where to have it. I like the idea of it being somewhere that’s not always on show, like the top of my spine or the underside of my arm or the inside of my wrist. Design and position decided upon then I would have to choose who I would entrust with the actual tattooing. I mean where do you even start?
I like to think I know my own mind much better than I did when I was 18 so I figure I’m less likely to choose a design I’ll later regret. But still, a tattoo is just so, permanent. Perhaps I should buy myself an item of jewellery with meaning or an iconic piece of furniture instead…?!
Do you have a tattoo? What design/s do you have? How painful is it? Do you regret any of your tattoos? How did you find the tattoo artist that felt right for you? And if you don’t have a tattoo but would quite like one, what’s stopping you? Do share in the comments section below.
You should never just want a tattoo. It should always be you want a tattoo of “”. You’ve got a better change of liking it in 20 years time. They do hurt anyone who says they don’t are lying/cant remember. I got a tattoo at the age of 16 because I just wanted a tattoo. It’s massively unimaginative and was cheap so therefore not done very well. I don’t nesicarily regret it but its definitely not pretty!
Ah, that’s such a good point Clare, and quite possibly the reason I’ve never gone ahead and actually had a tattoo, although there are a couple of phrases that really resonate, but still, not just one!
Saying that everyone in those pictures are dead cute!
I know, I like all of them. Sigh…
I could have written this, I actually raised it at a meeting recently. I think I know where I would have it (rib cage under bra strap so no-one except James and I would ever see it) and now I’ve got Mabel I feel it would be something dedicated to her. I just don’t know what though. And I won’t take the plunge until I do.
I agree with Clare Miranda, these are all really pretty designs!
A tattoo dedicated to Mabel somewhere hidden is a lovely idea Charlotte!
I could have written this too- am having exactly the same feelings at the moment. I like the idea of a small, delicate tat ‘close to my heart’- so effectively on my rib by my left boob. But of what? I don’t have children so would want something that represented me and Paul… but will I live to regret it when I’m 72? I am tempted by a little diddy feather, or a very delicate phrase- just haven’t found a design I like enough yet.
I very much like the idea of a tattoo close to your heart Sama and feather or phrase would be lovely. Hmm, when I’m 72 I hope to be as cool as the ladies on the Advanced Style blog, all of whom could totally rock a tattoo I reckon!
I have a tattoo round the side of my hip so is covered, even on a beach in a bikini. Like you I love very simple, black tattoos of either simple shapes of wording/phrases.
Mine says ‘To live in the hearts of those we love, is not to die’ and I love it.
What a lovely phrase Heather and not one I’ve heard before.
I have two. I can’t see one of them and so I forget it’s even there. The other is on my foot. They both remind me of certain times in my life and so I love them both and don’t regret them.
I have thought about adding a third but I think I’m kind of over it now. I do love this new ‘trend’ of delicate tattoos though. I follow some amazing artists on Instagram and the things they can do with a needle and some ink these days is incredible.
Also, I went on a european family holiday earlier this year and have NEVER seen so many tattoos in all of my life. I’m talking full bodies covered from head to toe. But you can also see the trends in tattoos as well, the tribal era, the koi era. This current more delicate and more personal/symbolic era is definitely my favourite.
Maybe I’ll get RMS on my wrist 😉 #superfan
I think that’s the key Becky, if your tattoo really reminds you of a certain time in your life then you won’t regret it because it is a part of you. I think that’s why words appeal to me the most, but as I said in the post I like symbols too and the meaning behind certain symbols, for example the triangle, really resonate.
I have a tattoo that I like, however my other half does not. It’s quite big and has colour in it. If you do get a tattoo keep it small and in black then if you change your mid laser removal will not only just be a few hundred quid it will be relatively easy to do also – colour is a nightmare to remove in a tattoo.
Wise idea to get it where no one hardly sees it as people do judge but then some people think then what’s the point in having it done. It does hurt not going to lie, I have a high pain threshold and withstood a two hour session – just!
You have to really want it and not just a whim or you may regret it rather quickly.
It’s funny Jill, I hadn’t even considered people judging me for having a tattoo, I guess because I live in an area where so many people have tattoos and work in a creative industry (and mostly from home!). The recent news story about the trainee teacher who was sent home because of her tattoos shows that as well as everything else people working in certain jobs also have to think carefully about whether a visible tattoo might not be seen as appropriate by their higher ups.
I have 3 – although looking at me you probably wouldn’t think I have any! The first one an act of 16 year old rebellion. Although I obviously haven’t ever been very rebellious as I only got a small Chinese symbol on my hip – very on trend in 1999! Thankfully you can’t even see it when I’m in swim wear. I think it shows that I wasn’t totally committed to the idea even at the time. I very rarely think about it now though and only my husband, waxer and the odd medical professional ever see it. Being totally honest though I would probably say I wish it wasn’t there.
I then had a small star outline on the inside of my foot when I was about 25. I had this done just after my grandmother passed away so it reminds me of her. This one is probably my fave. I had it done on the spur of the moment though during work lunch break at Rambos in Manchester so not a lot of research re artists went in to it!
I also have a cupcake design on my – well I suppose it’s the side of my bum! It’s a cute cupcake with sprinkles and a cherry on the top. I am an avid baker and I thought the design was mega cute. Again it was a bit of a spur of the moment thing and I just went to a local tattoo parlour. It can only be seen when I’m in a swim suit – which doesn’t happen that often!
I very rarely think about my tattoos. I am glad that I have had them all in places where they can’t really be seen unless I want to show them. I found that especially true on my wedding day. I would have hated for my gorgeous dress to have revealed a rose on my shoulder or something.
I’m pretty sure I would go down the route of having one where it couldn’t be seen unless I wanted it to be too Bryony. It’s lovely to have a tattoo that reminds you of your grandmother and interesting that it’s your fave. A friend of mine has the outlines of several stars on her foot, they look so pretty!
I used to want a tattoo when I was younger to the point where I was looking in shops at designs… but I’m so glad I didn’t get one probably never would now. It was a case of “I want a tattoo” rather than knowing what I wanted. I too am really indecisive, can never make up my mind and get bored easily so I think a tattoo would not sit well with those traits!
Case in point…I got the top of my ear pierced right before I turned 18. My mum had said I couldn’t have it done but I was adamant so went ahead and did it anyway. She said I would go off it, but no no I really liked it and it would stay forever. About 10 months later I took the thing out and let it heal up and now wonder why I ever bothered, haha!
I was desperate to get my ears pierced but let them close up after not very many years too Kitty! Hmm, definitely more thought needed…
I’ve wanted a tattoo for ages but still haven’t plucked up the courage!
I want a cluster of stars either on my foot or on the inside of my wrist/arm. But I have been told these are some of the most painful places to have tattoos and I’m a bit of a wimp!!! haha
You’ll have to let us know what you decide & maybe a cheeky pic!
xx
A cluster of stars would be lovely Rebecca. To be honest I’m a ways of making a decision but will be sure to share if and when I do get inked! xx
I have two tattoos – one on the small of my back (that my husband lovingly refers to as my tramp stamp!! Its not like that, its small and delicate!) and I love it, had it since I was…16/17. I have another on my left wrist which I wish I’d put more thought into – it was the rebellious result of a break up and it is Arabic script saying “Strength of will”. I loved it for a while but it soon wore off, I’m in the middle of having it laser-ed off…and this hurts MUCH more than the actual tattooing did. Its fading fast and thankfully black ink is the easiest to remove.
I would love another tattoo and have thoughts of getting a large rib or underside of arm piece in black ink done…but I’ve still to get the courage up!
Due to my experience I would never get a script tattoo again, even in English…too many “What does that mean.” “What does it say” questions!
A friend of mine (and her boyfriend) are tattooed up to the hilt and they look amazing – she has a 3/4 length full colour sleeve done, a piece on her back and a massive piece on one of her thighs. She lives in Edinburgh and traveled all the way to Leeds (I think) and it was well worth the journey for her most recent thigh tat.
I have a whole board on pinterest dedicated to tattoos, I really do love them!
Ouch, useful to know that the removal process is so painful, makes me realise how sure I will have to be of the design before I go ahead Annie!
I am absolutely fascinated by tattoos – I’m in awe of the effort, skill and passion that goes into an amazing design. Although I would opt for small, simple design, I love browsing through the more complex stuff. A girl I went to uni with has a massive tattoo on her side that looks like her skin has been torn off to show leopard print beneath. It’s incredible!
I don’t have any tattoos at the moment, but I’ve been thinking of getting one for a few years. I know the design (a cluster of stars) and I know where I want it (my right side, going from mid-back down to my waist) but I haven’t quite got the guts to go for it.
I think it’s the practicalities of it – I wouldn’t even know where to find a good tattoo artist. I’m also concerned that the placement would cause problems in the first few weeks with itching from clothing, sleeping on my back etc. I know, it sounds like I’m making excuses but these are genuine concerns of mine!!
When I had my tattoo they were sore the day they were done and I didn’t want to sleep on them but weren’t too painful to do so. They felt a bit like a bruise for next couple of days after that. I only found them itchy when they scabbed over which again only last a couple of days.
A friend recently posted on Facebook about her new tattoo saying: “Tattoo is at super-itchy stage. HELL ON MY ARM” (her caps). And here was me thinking that the only pain was when you actually had the tattoo done…
Nope, it’s all about itching. All you can do is slap it, as scratching can wreck the tattoo. Gets some interesting looks!!
I have two tattoos! A small symbol that looks a bit like a ‘H’ but it is my star sign pisces on my right shoulder blade and a medium sized ‘tramp stamp’ tribal design on my lower back. The small one was taken from a picture in a magazine I kept hold of for a couple of years and I had it done when I was 17. Because I had kept the picture so long and it could be hidden my mum pretended she didn’t mind. The second one was on a bit of a whim when I was 19. I didn’t research any artists and just went to the local tattoo studio. I’m currently thinking about having something bigger and colourful on my shoulder blade to cover up the small one. It’s not that I regret it (nothing would have stopped me at that age) but I would have put more thought into it if I had waited another few years but then I again I might have chicken out of it through being scared of the pain if I waited! The larger one at the bottom of my back hardly hurt, there were just a couple of areas that made me wince when it went over them but the one on my shoulder hurt quite a bit when the outline was being done. Neither took very long so I wouldn’t worry about it hurting.
Adding to my last comment – at 19 my best friend moved away to live with her sister for a year due to personal problems and when she came back I noticed she has acquired a tattoo on her lower back. When I looked at it properly it turned out we had both got the exact same one and at around the same time! We went on holiday and it was a lot of fun co-ordinating turning over in the sun so we weren’t showing the tattoos off at the same time!
Wow, what a spooky coincidence Claire. Good to hear that I shouldn’t worry about the pain too much, although I am a bit of a wuss…!
I nearly have so many times! In fact, I’ve lost count of how many friends I’ve been with to hold their hands so that I can watch their faces to try to work out how much it really hurts. I was always going to get my husbands name – which I love for its controversial cheesiness (but definitely not quite in a big red heart or a picture of his face :S) I wanted it in the Hebrew alphabet. I studied Hebrew for a bit (read ‘less than a week’) at uni so I had access to a Hebrew Bible and know as the name Joel is the name of a book I could be certain that I’d got it right – plus there were clever people dotted around I could check with over and over again. I used to have it on a piece of paper I would take it to regularly get checked… I was so paranoid after hearing of so many of the chinese symbols that didn’t say what people thought they said! But I quite liked the idea of it being both his name, and being beautiful Hebrew and having a strong spiritual meaning. Plus I quite like the whole commitment thing – I’d decided I was going to marry him forever so having a tattoo with his name was surely the LEAST significant consequence if we ever broke up?? I’ve actually never done it because I couldn’t decide WHERE to have it – plus I got pregnant so soon after we got married that I got concerned with the stretching problem if I’d had it anywhere near my torso… and I felt that birth was enough pain for the time being. Maybe one day I still will…?
Sounds like you’ve gotten much closer to getting a tattoo than me Amanda, I’m still at the gathering images stage. Hebrew lettering is lovely but yes, you’re right to be VERY careful to check that it actually says what you think it says before getting inked!
Great post, Miranda! I have 3 tattoos… 2 of which you can’t see when I have clothes on & the other one you can only see when I have my hair tied up. I don’t really like the design of the 2nd one I have & it was a bit of an impulse but I remember that day so well & I was so happy. That means something to me. All 3 I had at a different time in my life & remind me of the people I had in my life then. Some of them are still around & some not so much so I think it’s a lovely reminder. I was always worried about being judged etc. Which is why I wanted them relatively well hidden. Plus I do always like the shock on peoples faces when I say I have them!
My hairdresser is a guy & is covered in them but only in the places where he would wear a shirt. He’s also a graphic designer & so wants to look smart & presentable but when he’s cutting hair he has his shirt open a bit & you can see them peaking out. I always think there’s something intriguing about that…! Xx
I didn’t know you had any tattoos Alice! It’s lovely that they’re a reminder of people and happy times. I’m always intrigued when I can see a little bit of someone’s tattoo, which is often the case in yoga class, when you can see just a part of a tattoo, I always want to see the whole design!
Hee hee, exactly!
I have two small tattoos that are very special to me. I have a small butterfly on my ankle bone which I had done in Sydney whilst traveling. I then have the outline of a heart on the inside of my left wrist- me and my sister have the same and we had it done after losing our dad to cancer. It wasn’t for him but it was to symbolise the everlasting bond between us.
Both these are very personal and I thought long and hard before taking the plunge. I can cover both up if needed with socks and a watch. Someone once described the pain as it feeling like someone is dragging a cigarette across your skin and I would agree. I find the pain strangely addictive. I would love another one but haven’t decided what I would get.
I love the symbolism behind the heart tattoo that you and your sister have Helen and the butterfly tattoo you had when travelling sounds so pretty, and a lovely memory of your travels. Also a good move to have them in places you can cover if necessary.
I have one tattoo, it’s reasonably small and I had it done just before my 19th birthday. it’s a design which I drew myself, it’s hard to describe but it’s almost in a henna style shaped in a cross in the small of my back (just slightly higher than the bend down and it’s on display level!). I wanted one for ages on my back but I wanted something no one else had so I drew it myself which makes it feel special. I loved it and at uni tried to have it on display whenever possible as very few people I knew had tattoos so I felt rebellious. Now I’m a bit older (27) I don’t really think about it – probably because I never see it but sometimes I do try to avoid people seeing it (like my husbands parents!) but more because I don’t want it to change their opinion of me. People are surprised when I tell them I have a tattoo, I’m never sure if it’s a good or a bad thing. I have toyed with the idea of having it removed as now we are thinking about children I feel like I should set an example, but reading the comments on here I’m going to continue to embrace and love it as it reminds me of a certain time in my life. I think if you get one have it somewhere that’s not going to change or sag as you get older and something that can be discrete if you need it to, and why not design it yourself to make it feel more unique? I think often the style and place of the tattoo is crucial to how it good it looks. The pictures you’ve put on here make me want another one, especially the lotus and the picture bottom right, lovely! I also think it’s really sexy when men have a full sleeve of tattoos (rocker style!) x
Such a good idea to design my own tattoo Steph, to make it even more personal, and a good point to go to with a place on my body that’s not going to change or sag as I get older. The lotus is pretty isn’t is? And I do like the arrow symbols, to signify moving forwards as much as for the way they look. x
I’m not a fan of tattoos! Someone once said to me, “you just don’t put bumper stickers on a ferrari!” X
Haha, haven’t heard that before Michelle! x
I have 8. One on either side of my ribs under my bra strap, one on my neck, one on my back, one on each wrist, one on the back of my right arm and one on my inner left arm. 7 out of 8 are outlines, mostly black although the two most recent ones were done using grey ink.
The most significant one is of my wedding monogram which is inked in grey on the inside of my left arm, closest to my heart. I got it done 3 weeks before our wedding and everyone thought I was mad!
You can see it over on RMW
Grey ink sounds amazing – definitely going to look at this.
Like the sounds of grey ink too Lynsey!
I have 2 tattoos- a butterfly at the bottom of my back- I initially got a small, multicoloured one done aged 19 while at uni. I had it covered aged 26 but stuck with a butterfly as I didn’t want to go against my original choice. Butterflies are really common and a kind of silly, girly choice, but I still love it because it’s mine.
My other one is footprints on my left wrist, which symbolise my year spent travelling. I love these, because they’re a permanent reminder of a happy, adventurous time in my life.
Love the sound of both of your tattoos Susan, butterflies are so pretty and the footprints sound like the perfect way to symbolise your year of travelling!
I’ve never really been a fan which is probably quite ironic as my husband is a tat addict! he researches designs and artists and finds the whole process fascinating. I wouldn’t ever rule out having one and agree all of the designs above are very pretty but I agree with some of the other comments suggesting that they should be significant to a time or situation.
A friend of mine has recently had an arrow tattoo and there reason behind it was just beautiful, they have had a pretty rotten year and the arrow is very significant – when life pulls you back let the lessons propel you forwards, don’t look back or get stuck in the past.
Amy I love the idea of what the arrow symbolises. It is a serious contender for my next one.
I do love the meaning behind the arrow Amy, it’s definitely one of my favourite symbol options.
I’ve a star on my wrist that, while I don’t regret, I wish I’d taken more time to think about. I don’t like the location and it’s not a very good tattoo, so I’m going to have it covered before my wedding day. I know exactly what I want, but I’m nervous now- what if the tattoo I get to replace it isn’t good either? I can’t just keep covering them!
Oh dear Jemma, I would imagine that, if you haven’t already, you’ll put more time in to think about the design and research the tattoo artist, so you’re less likely to make a mistake this time.
I loved reading all the comments.
I’ve been thinking about getting a tattoo for a few months now. My husband got diagnosed with tongue cancer last year (2 days after our wedding) and has been through several operations and the horrible time of radiation. He’s really well now and I pray to whoever will listen that he stays this way. This is why I’ve considered getting the word “live” somewhere on my skin. Not “life” because it feels so passive to me, but “live” as a verb, because life needs to be lived and enjoyed… I just don’t know where to get it done on my body. And I haven’t talked about it to my husband since I am not sure how he’ll feel about it. He resents his scars so I need to check what he thinks of me getting a “reminder”…
Anja I’m so sorry to hear about your husband’s illness but so happy to hear that he is well now, long may it last, sending you much love. The word live is so positive, reminding you to make the most of every day. I think it’s a lovely idea, but yes, best check what your husband thinks first. xxx
I actually have 2 tattoos already and I already know what my 3rd will be. I got my first at 21. I actually knew what I wanted at 18 but I waited to make sure. It’s a star and my maiden name in Arabic down my spine. I also have “not all those who wander are lost” written across the insides of both feet – which is very accurate given the nomadic life I have lived since birth. My third will be down my ribs on my left side and will say “never let go” which was part of our weddings vows. I plan on that one being my last but never say never! I may feel the need to immortalise my one day children. What I love about mine is 1) they are all meaningful to me and 2) that they are easily hidden.
Not all those who wander are lost is one of my favourite quotes Anni, absolutely perfect for a tattoo, I love never let go too.
I got my first tattoo at 17, three of us got the same, a tiny swirl below our ankle bone. Since then i have added to my collection – currently I have 4 (technically 5, but I had one covered up with one of the others).
I adore tattoos – i know people think they are becoming commonplace, and having one doesn’t have so much stigma attached to it nowadays, but even so there is still a perception that tattoo= not professional. Thankfully I haven’t been categorised to that (I don’t think!) but I am lucky that I live in a place where tattooing is a cultural thing and very widely accepted.
Good luck in choosing your design 🙂
For what it’s worth I have ‘kia kaha’ in tiny flowing font under my collar bone. This means ‘stay strong’ in Maori. I also have a tiny fantail bird on my wrist, which covers up another tattoo which was a pale snowflake, plus two beautiful tattoos on my left foot, one designed by my husband. 🙂 x
I’ve got three tattoos. I have some black birds on my left shoulder blade and I lived with that idea for two years before taking the plunge. It has a hugely personal meaning. I also have a song title that’s really important to me (it’s to do with overcoming something tough) on my lower back in a spot you only see if I wear a bikini, and on my right foot I have a rabbit holding a string that turns into the letters of another meaningful quote (my husband was born in the year of the rabbit). They’re kind of addictive but I’m stopping now!
Personally I chose things that had deep meanings – that way even if i fall out of love with how they look, the emotional story is still there. The back and shoulder ones weren’t too painful but the foot hurt like heck – tattoo pain only hurts while it’s happening though!
I often forget I have them now so it’s a nice surprise when I spot them. Loads of my friends have tattoos so I asked around for artist recommendations and picked someone who seemed enthusiastic about my ideas. Just don’t underestimate how important aftercare is…