Those of you that follow me on instagram will know that we’ve had all sorts of adventures (most of them resulting in disappointment) with regards us moving to our “forever” family home.
After yet another purchase fall through we now find ourselves in a situation where we need to sell and move out, but don’t really have a new home to go to as such (I promise I will write what will probably be a long and dull feature about the entire debacle, as soon as I can actually muster the motivation).
Only last week we found ourselves what is very close to, our dream house in a chocolate box village in the country. But after everything that’s happened, I won’t believe it until I have those keys in my hand. And even if everything does go through as planned, the earliest we will be moving in is the end of October. We have agreed to complete with our buyers on the 9th September. They have been waiting for us for months so we feel it’s only fair that we allow them to have their dream home. The joys of a chain.
This essentially gives us 7 weeks of limbo. We didn’t particularly want to sign up for a rental lease – the very minimum is 6 months so we could end up spending thousands on a property we don’t actually need for the contractual duration. I had a light bulb moment where I suggested perhaps we could find a long term “holiday let” of sorts – and low an behold, we have found a pretty little cottage about 3 miles from our current house. It’s small but perfectly formed. Ahem, small being the operative word.
I know “Living With Less” is very much a current trend, and even though we have always wanted to have a good old sort out, the truth is we don’t have much choice but to only keep the things we really really need. My parents have kindly offered us temporary storage in their garage and annex – but it isn’t infinite, and items like our sofas, beds and kitchen table will take up the majority of the space available. And we certainly can’t take much to the cottage apart from a suitcase each, some of Mabel’s toys and James’s Nespresso machine (because you know, essentials.)
Disastrous-moving-experience-so-far aside, James and I are quite laid back in that we’re not (yet) in panic mode. We know we just have to get on with it. Besides, with a toddler in tow what else can you do? Stressed and narky parents would not be conducive to the fact we hope for as smooth a transition as possible for Mabel.
Last week we ordered a skip, it is already full to bursting. So we’ve ordered another one. I already feel item by item that little bit lighter. It’s difficult to describe exactly but it does seem like the perfect opportunity for a fresh new start. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not about to start living with just a couple of kimonos, bare feet and a vegetable patch, but I am looking forward to a life with less clutter and unnecessary things.
My next big job is to sort through my embarrassingly large stash of clothing. As superficial as it may sound, I am dreading the task ahead – I donated several bin bags full of fashion to a local charity shop about 18 months ago and it took me forever to part with pieces that admittedly, I hadn’t worn for over a year and probably never would again.
Have you ever had a big clear out? Ever missed anything you re-housed in the skip? Feel much lighter and brighter because you are living with less?
Oh and if anyone could recommend some under bed storage (preferably with dividers) or clever compact ways of storing underwear and whatnot then I will love you forever.
You know the story Charlotte, but we got rid of all our things in Scotland to go travelling after our wedding, then when we settled in Perth, we accumulated things and got rid of them all over again to downsize from a big family house to a beautiful tiny townhouse by the beach. We’ll also be getting rid again in about 8 months time as we go through the journey of finding OUR forever home.
And I have to say, I loooove the process. The shedding of layers and reinventing of a way of life. I found Marie Kondo quite helpful with the last purge and haven’t pined for a single dumped or donated item.
Also… When we move, I create a secret Pinterest board of how I want my new chapter in life to *feel* (think images of art and quotes and fashion and interiors and beautifully perched models looking ‘natural’), then if I get stuck when purging, I consult the board and see if said item has any place in that imagery. If not, byebye.
Maybe create a board of what you would like your temporarily minimalist chapter to look like? Instead of seeing it as a means to an end, it could be a little well curated adventure of it’s own.
I’m excited for you! And I’m crossing everything that the chocolate box house comes through xo
I love the idea of a new home feels Pinterest board. Definitely yoinking that idea!
Do it Philippa! Although don’t blame me when you lose 26 hours of your life down that Pinterest rabbit hole 😉
What an excellent idea Naomi! I am going to start that board today! And a tiny townhouse by the beach sounds perfect, it really does. xx
I’ll be following your living with less adventure with interest. We’re in a very similar position albeit it’s now looking as though we might not need to undertake the interim move. But as it was in the cards, I’ve already started the Cull of the Things. And have seriously contemplated hiring a skip too!
I’ve been doing a bit of a Marie Kondo-lite since the start of the year and minimising new purchases as we’ve had a move on the cards. As you know that’s hard with a toddler and their ever changing needs and interests. I’ve been driving around with the Aldi TeePee in my boot for weeks now as I won’t allow it over the threshold of our current home. Just hoping the move is completed before Fern has outgrown it!!
Fingers crossed this new house comes to fruition for you. There’s nothing quite so unsettling than domestic limbo.
I have the Marie Kondo book and did sort of “begin” a bit of a clear out last year, I never kept up with it though, life just seemed to get in the way. This Aldi Tee Pee though…do I need one? 🙂 x
You’re MINIMISING!!! I should never have mentioned the blush pink, chevron, bargainous teepee of dreams. We’re over chevrons now though, right?! Forget I ever said anything ?
What? It’s blush pink?! I have never owned a chevron! and I think it’s about time I did. Maybe I can just hide it in my car boot like you ?
I’ve just googled this and gutted I missed out. The dark grey chevron would’ve been perfect for Felix…dammit
Might just check my local Aldi this week, y’know just in case ones been missed….
I’ve mentioned it before but we moved into our new home the week before our daughter was born (3 weeks early, probably brought on by a combination of stress / me being down on my hands and knees cleaning every inch of the place) BUT the combination of a time sensitive move and a baby on the way – who whilst unborn had already amassed a whole lot of STUFF – it out me into ruthless clear out mode and I chucked a whole load of clothes / make-up / lotions and potions and general knock knacks that I really should have done years before.
When it came to unpacking boxes everything had a place and because we’d got rid of a whole load of clutter, our new place still felt spacious.
Re underwear storage I use those little drawer dividers from IKEA!
Oh can you buy the draw dividers there too? I’ll have to have a look. I’m also on a mission that when I have less I want it to be extraordinarily tidy! x
Could you not just rent a storage unit?
Falling that, Ikea skubb boxes are great for underwear, I have them under my bed. Plus no need to unpack them when you move!
Hi Kathryn, we did initially consider a storage unit yes, but with my parents being so flexible (and free) we figured we would be paying to store a lot of stuff we don’t need – and would just go in the loft of our new house (!)
It’s a kick up the arse for us to de-clutter x
Hi Charlotte, congratulations on the new house, really hope this one comes through for you! I’m afraid my suggestion might not help with the minimalist thing, but I have some friends in a very similar situation to you and just helped them move lots of their things into one of those temporary storage facilities. It was actually way cheaper than I’d expected, you can get a decent sized storage room for about £20 a week. I’m a big fan of clearing out, but maybe handy for a few bits of furniture?
I think if the larger pieces of furniture simply take up too much room then we will have to rent a storage facility. I’m just hoping we can throw away enough unneeded things so we don’t have to x
When we moved into our house we had to fill ten skips to clear the place. As it had belonged to my husbands grandparents who had lived here for nearly 40 years, there was an enormous amount to plough through. However difficult that was it has definitely paved the way for regular clear outs. I am not a hoarder and I find it very easy to get rid of things. I realised the reason I find it so easy to part with my regalia is because a lot of my purchases I don’t actually love or need! I’m now going to make a conscious decision not to buy anything unless I think it’s going to make me pretty happy for quite a long time! Lauren was very proud of me when I paired down my spending on a recent spree. If I’ve got her approval then I know I’ve moved forward on the ‘less is more front’ ?
I’m the same Hannah, I’ve become much better at “Do you LOVE it”? and if the answer is no then I don’t buy it (apart from boring necessities obviously). In the grand scheme of things James and I aren’t too bad, it’s mostly clothes with me and all the stuff we’ve accumulated for Mabel over the last few years. Oh and kitchen utensils (!) it’s not as if I cook from scratch every day but look in my kitchen cupboards and you would assume I was ruddy Mary Berry!!!!! xx
Ha ha! I can talk anyway. HUGE sale on in Warehouse yesterday. Ooops xx
I get that this post is about minimising, and I’m totally on board with that as we recently did a mahoosive dejunk prior to moving house. In fact, now that we’ve settled in I really want to do another one.
But…we need the bargainous Aldi tepee of dreams! It is an essential, particularly as it is a full £90 cheaper than the Nobodinoz one I put on Zoe’s Christmas list. 🙂
Also, totally stealing Naomi’s pinterest idea. During which I will probably find more things I need to buy. x
Tracy your comment made me do all the LOLS 🙂
I also agree it is an essential! xx
Charlotte, it’s not even funny. We don’t actually have Aldi in Northern Ireland so I have dispatched a friend in Scotland to get me one and bring it home next time she visits. All in the name of economy. So grateful I have such tolerant/cooperative besties! Not sure what her OH will say when he realises he has to pack it on their next trip over though… x
I am in dire need of a declutter. I can’t shut any of my drawers properly at the moment. I have so many little jobs to do which accumulate into big jobs when left that I have decided I need to do just one small job a day. I’m really bad at getting rid of stuff and although I get into the zone when I start I find it really stressful. I have a huge of pile of clothes in my spare room to either Ebay or donate to charity – I think that will be this weekend’s challenge.
Claire I am shipping off both my husband and Mabel to Cheshire to stay with family on Saturday so I can go through everything – otherwise I just know I’ll faff around and get distracted. I say this, somehow I have now invited my friend Kelly round for wine and to see if she wants any of my make-up before it gets thrown in the bin…..that may turn into a couple of hours of not doing what I should be ?
I did a massive clear out of my wardrobe the day before returning to work from maternity leave. Anything that didn’t fit or I didn’t love went to charity. Anything tatty went to the clothes bank at the tip. Eight bin bags later it has made a huge difference to how I live. I can actually see what clothes I have and I hang things up when I get home rather than using the floordrobe.
When we moved to our current home we lost a garage and attic so had a massive declutter. Two skips and a hundred trips to the tip it still feels like we have too much stuff but there is no hidden clutter anymore.
Good luck with the house purchase, got my fingers and toes crossed!
Thanks so much Kat! I too got rid of about 8 bin bags about 18 months ago, it was so difficult but I swear I haven’t missed a single item (I couldn’t even tell you what was in them!) and I felt so much better afterwards. x
These vacuum bags which they sell in Lakeland: http://www.lakeland.co.uk/24202/2-Pack-Mate®-Anti-Mould-Clothes-%26-Duvet-Vacuum-Storage-Bags—162L might help with the underwear, clothes, bedding, soft toy storage. My mum recommended them to me and they are brilliant and come in lots of different sizes. They also seem to be on offer at the moment too.
Oh super! Thanks Sarah x
Did you ever see the film “Juno”? The couple in it (the one’s adopting the baby) live in a fairly minimal style house with all the husbands guitars and other junk put in one room , watching this years ago with my then boyfriend-now husband-in our flat he joked that if we got a house then that would happen, fast forward about 9 years and he was right, we live in a 3 bed biggish house (with no children) that i really want to keep free from all the charity shop junk i once hoarded as a student, and so his hoard of books, 2 huge bookcases that he won’t part from and maybe up to 20 FRAMED PICTURES (of landscapes that i have never visited and sports stuff) live in what we now call the “Dave room” Sadly in Juno, the couple split up, but I find the Dave room a really good solution, he gets his own hoard and room, and i get to live in what i pretend is a 2 bed house that we’re trying to keep as junk free as we can, though i doubt we will ever be called minimal in style. Chucking away the bags of old clothes and junk when we moved last year was so liberating and i never want to go back to a life where i have a whole bag of odd socks in the corner of the bedroom incase the other ones magically come back and pair up with them.
I’m a big fan of living with less (I only own two pairs of jeans for example!) and having a nice neat place for everything in the house. Having said that, I do regret ten years ago chucking out a load of 90s Elle and Vogue magazines that would have made awesome reading today, along with my childhood Sylvanian Family gypsy wagon that I am now trying to buy on eBay at great expense for my six year old daughter! ? So by all means declutter but there’s nothing wrong with storing things for posterity if you think you’ll have the room one day x
Alice I’m so glad you said that! My collection of Sylvanians is at my parents house….they are now moving and I’m trying to persuade my husband that we need to find room for said wood creatures at our house in case we ever have a little girl. I think this may win me my argument 🙂 x
Boring underbed storage tip;
Poundland do vacuum sealed bags. I have vacuum sealed all my winter jumpers, spare duvets and pillows, coats (anything soft and squishy that I don’t use) all shoved under the spare bed, though vacuum packing your undies probably isn’t the most practical option…
I should probably just throw these bags of unused vacuum sealed tat away! I’m not very good at ‘living with less’
I have just moved into a caravan for a month while the builders get stuck into completely re-ordering the downstairs layout of the house we bought 8m ago. I am seriously living with less right now!! When we moved, we moved from a smaller to a larger house but knew that we would undertake some serious rennovation – 8m later after planning is sorted/builders contracted we are making progress. It has taken some discipline over the last 8 months to not buy stuff to fill our larger house as we knew we’d eventually need to pack away. And last weekend most of our stuff went into our loft and a storage unit – and the essentials have come to the caravan (although also have quite a bit of stuff in the boot of my car and a shoe cupboard in my office at work!!)
Once we finally get the house of our dreams, the challenge will be to fill it thoughtfully with only things we love!
Good luck in the little cottage – and remember it could be a caravan!! x
We are in the same situation almost, although we couldn’t find another property so have completed our sale and moved into rented along with our 15 month old. It’s not been as bad as I feared but yes the house is ‘cosy’ and we will be surrounded by boxes for the duration! The six month lock in is annoying but I’m determined we’ll find our dream house soon and just factor the extra rent fees into our offer….if only it were ever that simple!!
I cycle through.
With clothes its getting rid of all everything with holes or worn out, then look at everything at the bottom of the draw. When it comes to moving I packed my favourite items in the suit case, occasional in a box, the rest goes.
Everything else I went through the boxes or stored things assuming everything was going, if it made me sad it was going it got moved. It helped it was expensive to ship things as it put a monetary value on moving it.
Haven’t missed anything, apart from the nail varnish I left for his suitcase that ended up with the person taking all the spare kitchen items (she enjoyed them though), my mistake for not being specific to a boy!