My gorgeous, witty and intelligent friend has just found herself suddenly single at 31. After more than a decade in two long term relationships Isabelle and all of her friends and family were stunned when her boyfriend called it a day on their relationship a month ago. They’d both talked marriage, babies, puppies and home ownership so understandably it was a bit of a shock.
A few weeks ago Izzy reluctantly downsized her much-loved South-East London flat to a room in a house share. My friend Lindsay and I quizzed her new house-mate and can confirm he is very normal and we’re very confident the two of them will get on famously in their flat. However I know the process of packing and sorting though years of ‘stuff’ has been an emotional and lonely one. How do you know what to keep and what to let go? Not to mention the fact a one bed flat doesn’t actually fit into a room so regrettably the collection of furniture and trinkets has to be pared-back.
As with anyone celebrating new-found singledom, Izzy is keen to paint the town red but with a boatload of married friends her wing-women have been few and far between. The offer to “come round for dinner and share a glass of wine with me and my fabulous husband” understandably doesn’t really appeal. Hangs head in shame at falling into the category.
Over a drink (or two) in London recently, Lindsay and I attempted to give some advice but to be honest failed miserably. We then came on to the subject of you, our very helpful readers and how Isabelle’s current plight might resonate with you. I feel it necessary to mention the Bridget Jones pic was also Izzy’s idea following on from several texts about being left to die alone and being discovered three weeks later half-eaten by an Alsatian. I might be a rubbish drinking sidekick but I will most definitely ensure this doesn’t happen.
I’ve lost count of the number of people I know who use dating apps and they’ve met some lovely people through them. I’ve also been to the weddings of people who’ve met the love of their life through a dating site. However I’ve also heard a whole host other not-so-romantic stories too. I’m sure Tinder has its uses but this girl is looking for a G&T and a giggle with like-minded folk rather than a one-night stand.
So do feel free to send along advice to my lovely friend. “Everything happens for a reason” and “You’ll meet someone new when you least expect it” are strictly out of bounds. 😉
We’d love to hear your own experiences of healing heartbreak and moving on. How did you deal with moving to a new pad? What is the best (and worse) piece of advice you’ve been given after a relationship break-up? What would you recommend for someone who’s not quite ready to date but not willing to stay in all night with her crochet? Izzy and I are all ears.